Literally, differences exist between handstands and standing on your hands

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Would you rather is another question game, similar to The Question Game I previously wrote about. While I’ve never played it according to the rules and regulations, it’s another fun way I garner crumbs of information and laughs with kids.

 

Quite simply, you ask a question and supply two options (forced choices).

 

Would you rather be a superhero or a villain?

 

Would you rather eat chocolate covered grasshoppers or ants?

 

Would you rather be able to fly or breathe underwater?

 

…..and why? Again, that judgmental little why question – and yes, it means they have to defend their answer.

 

I was playing this game yesterday and asked “Would you rather stand on your head or your hands?”

 

The response was – “My hands, of course.”

 

The of course intrigued me – see, for me, either one would be an impossibility at this point in my life – if I flipped on accident I might break my back so really, I wouldn’t want to do either one but if I had to choose (as is the purpose of the game), I would have to say headstand…my head seems sturdier than my hands. Maybe all my curls are tricking me into believing that.

 

His matter-of-fact response of his hands of course made me curious.

 

So – why?

 

“Because my hands would be easier to cut off.” He said this smugly; like I should inherently have known.

 

I had to pause, giving my classic blank face.

 

Oh, that’s right… kids are literal thinkers. Which means, when I used the phrase “stand on” instead of “headstand” they literally interpreted it as stand on your head…like the way you might stand on a basketball.

 

Like this:

 

 

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But what was most hilarious was 1) how quickly he responded, and 2) that the first thing he thought was that I would be suggesting he chop either limb off…in order to stand on it. When I demonstrated what I was talking about (through pictures, not by doing a hand or headstand, again, I might break my back!) we got quite a chuckle from it and I gained a very nice reminder on how messages can be misinterpreted.

 

The purpose of these kinds of activities are about bonding and relationship building – it encourages critical thinking, decision making, creativity and communication. They create a safe, judgment free zone – kids can say outrageous things without us responding critically – the purpose of the game is to come up with the most outrageous question! It’s about thinking outside of the box.

 

I’m a huge advocate for role-modeling – everyone wants their children to self-regulate their emotions, but often we don’t allow them to see us regulating our own. Ask your son/daughter how they know when you are frustrated. Go ahead, ask them…I’ll wait…

 

Did they say something along the lines of, “You don’t get frustrated” or “You yell”. It’s usually not until we have blown our tops that kids pick up on our frustration – but typically, they see it as we are “angry” or “mad” (higher forms of frustration). They miss the minor nuances and subtle cues.

 

Not everything we do has to be about a life lesson or teaching skills – sometimes the best gift we can give is allowing people to simply be themselves. The kooky, funny, outrageous self that we learn to lock away in order to fit in. Engaging in these moments with your child role-models for them that it’s okay to be silly – they probably don’t see us in that role too often. When was the last time you were just downright kooky? Sometimes, kids can role-model for us how to really and truly just relax and have fun.

 

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What if snails could talk? And other pertinent questions from your child

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Kid: Have you ever touched the sun?

Me: Nope. Have you?

Kid: No. *pause* What if you did touch the sun? What would happen?

Me: I’m not sure. What do you think would happen?

Kid: You’d burst into flames.

Me: Oh. I’m glad I haven’t done that.

Kid: Yeah, me too

 

This is a recent conversation that I had with an 8-year-old boy. He has also told me that no one else likes his questions, including his science teacher; who should be able to provide more valid reasons as to why touching the sun isn’t a good idea, although I have a feeling that he may be right and we would burst into flames somewhere along the way.

 

I’ve learned that this is his way of initiating conversation, in fact, I’ve learned that this is how a lot of kids have learned to initiate conversation with adults. I call it the question game.

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What if all your hair fell out?

What if you saw a clown with a hammer?

What if snails could talk?

What if I could breathe under water?
What if it rained lollipops?

What if cows were made of chocolate?

What if you were scared at night?

What if no one knew your name?

What if you woke up and no one else was home?

 

What if questions tend to be followed by:

 

What would you do?

 

If a child asks you what you would do in any given situation, recognize that this is the largest form of respect a child can offer you – they are looking to you for advice on how to navigate potentially strange, unexpected circumstances. They are asking you how you would adapt.

 

When we think about it, should it really be surprising that so many kids learn to start up conversations via an unanswerable question? Think about it.. How often do we start with:

 

Why did you do that?

Why aren’t you eating your vegetables?

Why aren’t you ready yet?

Why are you wearing two different shoes?

Why are you asking so many questions?!

 

I much prefer kids’ what if questions to these why questions – why questions are inherently judgmental.

 

I like playing along with what if questions – responding to the question with another question. This is apparently a legitimate game that people play (thanks Wikipedia!). There is a lot to be learned from kids’ philosophical ponderings both about that particular child and life in general. Sometimes I ponder the question for days – because there isn’t a concrete answer.

 

I mean, really… What if snails could talk? What glorious things might they be able to tell us about blades of grass?

 

Kids share their worlds with us through these questions. There are messages within the questions that we often overlook because life is busy and who really has time to ponder what would happen if it rained lollipops?

 

But through these questions I have learned:

 

What if all your hair fell out? The child was afraid of going bald as a grown up.

What if you saw a clown with a hammer? The child had heard about the “killer clowns” on television and was afraid that they were going to climb in his window and bash his brains in with a hammer.

What if snails could talk? This child really loved snails – a lot.

What if I could breathe under water? How do you know that I can’t? The child had been watching fishing shows on television and was amazed by gills.
What if it rained lollipops? This child really liked lollipops – a lot.

What if cows were made of chocolate? This child knew that I loved chocolate and wanted to know if I liked chocolate more than hamburgers – the answer is no. Hamburgers are superior to chocolate.

What if you were scared at night? This child was afraid of the dark and believed he was the only one afraid.

What if no one knew your name? This child was very shy and no one remembered her name at school other than the teacher.

What if you woke up and no one else was home? This child had actually experienced that and had become afraid of falling asleep.

 

So how do you play the question game? Simply ask more questions:

 

What if all your hair fell out? What if that did happen? How would my head stay warm?

What if you saw a clown with a hammer? That would be terrifying. Who should I call?

What if snails could talk? What would be the funniest thing they might say?

What if I could breathe under water? How do you know that I can’t? What would you do underwater if you could breathe?
What if it rained lollipops? What flavors do you hope would fall?

What if cows were made of chocolate? Where would I get a hamburger from?

What if you were scared at night? What would make me scared at night?

What if no one knew your name? How would people know who I was?

What if you woke up and no one else was home? Where would they have gone?

 

I worry about the kid who told me no one else likes his questions – at what point is he going to stop asking them?

 

What is the most philosophical question a child ever asked you?

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Nostalgia: Is it possible to be vulnerable and self-sufficient at the same time?

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I’m not sure how many, or if anyone, will relate with today’s post but I want to believe I’m not the only one who experiences this.


 

Nostalgia – A sentimental longing or wistful affection for the past

Introspective – The examination or observation of one’s own mental and emotional processes

Vulnerable – Susceptible to physical or emotional attack

Enmeshment – A relationship between people in which personal boundaries are permeable and unclear

 

Enmeshed relationships are dysfunctional – objective witnesses can easily identify the unhealthy attributes. They frequently arise during crisis: addiction, homelessness, the loss of a loved one, depression, loneliness or other mutually shared struggles. Teenagers are notorious for these connections. These relationships often end once someone becomes “healthy” – it’s a painful, and sad, process to go through realizing that the relationship was never about romance or even the two people involved. It was about support; it was about belongingness; it was about feeling normal in the midst of chaos. Regardless of what, these two will always be connected on another level – they’ve seen the absolute worst of each other. Remembering those relationships can often bring up a dull, achy nostalgia.

 

Codependent relationships are a topic for a different day. Many codependent relationships are often enmeshed, but this is referring to those relationships of intense emotional connectedness where both partners would gladly do more for the other than themselves – both are giving, giving, giving but no one is moving forward and so they remain stuck; clinging to each other like life rafts.

 

When I was young(er), I was vulnerable by nature and found symbolism and meaning in everything. I mean, everything. Now I just find funny little coincidences. Every step forward in life has brought me further away from that vulnerable girl, and sometimes I miss her. Her life was full of flavorful symbolism and cosmic connectedness; a willingness to maintain friendships at all costs and a warmth that is hard to conjure up as a self-sufficient adult. She loved easily and deeply and could whole-heartedly throw herself into endeavors. But she was also very sad and reliant on those relationships to determine her worth.

 

Full reliance on others for our emotional state is not healthy, but it can appear beautiful in the moment. I wouldn’t want to resurrect the girl that I was, but I do miss her sometimes.

 

When people become self-sufficient, it’s hard to be vulnerable. Vulnerability implies that one can be hurt and while it may sting a little when life separates loved ones via circumstance, the more self-sufficient one is the harder it is to imagine the departure of anyone being a devastating event. Life would go on; the more aware of this one becomes, the harder it is to achieve complete vulnerability. This doesn’t include the death of a loved one – this refers to all the other separations we go through – break ups, relocations, job changes, and positive life changes such as becoming a parent or graduating. It’s sad, but It no longer triggers those desperate feelings of needing them to survive. The fear of losing them.

 

But every once in a while, nostalgia may kick in; a longing for those moments of complete enmeshment with someone else, because it was beautiful at the time how each of you clung to one another waiting for the storms to pass (any romantic movie will reaffirm that). It was meaningful at the time. That dull ache serves as a reminder of how far you’ve come – embrace it, and love yourself today.

 

Can anyone else relate or is it just me today?

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Radical Acceptance: Embracing reality

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Every day, there are a million things that could potentially stress us out. Right now, write out a list of your top 5.

Now, take a look at your own list. How many of them do you have control over in this moment?

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In a previous post, radical acceptance was mentioned; or “it is what it is”, in passing.

Radical acceptance is about accepting reality – not necessarily agreeing with reality, or being thrilled about reality but simply accepting that whatever has happened has happened (or is happening).  Why? Because when we fight reality we always lose. Remember that Frozen song? The one that repeats “let it gooooo” a zillion times? While annoying, it’s a genius song and a great message for children to learn early on. When we accept things in our reality that we cannot change – we then have to practice LETTING IT GO.

Radical acceptance is a skill often taught during DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), which is a specific form of cognitive behavioral therapy developed by Marsha Linehan; DBT is a very in-depth treatment that focuses on skill building, tolerating distress and interpersonal relationships. For an overview of DBT, check out this post on Psych Central.

Radical acceptance is one of those coping skills, however, that can be beneficial to nearly all of us. We often try to push against and fight uncomfortable feelings, which usually increases our frustration and negative emotions in the long term. Negative thoughts fuel negative thoughts.

Traffic jams are a great example of people not accepting their reality. Horns are honked, profanity is shouted; it’s not fair to be stuck in traffic because of someone else’s accident. Honking the horn doesn’t get anyone closer to the front of the line. What it does successfully do is show annoy everyone nearby and demonstrate frustration. Congrats! The person behind us, in front of us, and beside us is also unhappy and frustrated as well. And look, now that guy next to us is lifting his middle finger to show us how frustrating our behavior is for him.

After stubbing a toe, the first reaction for many is to hit something: our toe hurts, dammit, and we are going to show that corner who is boss! It’s not fair! It sucks! I just can’t stand it! Reality – the pain will pass, eventually, and hitting the wall is not going to resolve it any quicker.

Wanting to lash back when hurting may be a normal human reaction, however, it’s not our rational brain working; it’s our biological processes of chemicals and nerve endings. Our rational brain recognizes that indeed, there is nothing that can be done.

Reality is a beautiful kaleidoscope of perceptions – our own perceptions and others – mixed together to create a “truth”. Radical acceptance involves accepting life on life’s terms, without judgement; it’s recognizing the things that we have control over (and ultimately doing something to fix those) and recognizing those aspects of life controlled by external forces.

Acceptance doesn’t mean that we believe the things that we fight against are “good” or “fair”. There are many things that have happened to us that were unfair, not just and overall awful. We have all been victims at one point or another but continuing to replay them in our minds, continuing to elicit those painful and uncomfortable emotions as we go over and over in our heads what we wish had gone differently – does nothing. We cannot change the past, we cannot control factors beyond our control and our penchant for trying to control every aspect of life is futile.

Radical acceptance takes a lot of practice – what seems like an easy concept goes against our biological response to pain. But by starting with more minor annoyances (like drizzle compared to a hurricane) it does become easier. You forgot your umbrella? That’s awful! Your hair will get wet, your make up may run – but you will live and there is nothing you can do unless you are a magician who can make an umbrella appear.

If you didn’t really write out a list of your stressors, I encourage you to do it now. Which ones do you have control over and which ones can you practice acceptance with?

For some further reading, check out these links:

What it really means to practice radical acceptance – Psych Central

Radical Acceptance – Psychology Today

Marsha Linehan video on Radical Acceptance

What are some acceptance statements that you use for your daily annoyances?

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Social Media Use In Teens

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Please take a moment to check out this blog and offer some suggestions for social media use in teens! This is an important topic and most of us have some experience to share about.

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I’m giving a presentation next Monday to foster care and adoption social workers. The topic is Internet, Social Media and Gaming In Teens.

I’m trying to do some last minute research. Please post in the comments what apps your teens are using the most for social media, what are the dangers you’ve encountered or what are the positives you’ve seen. (Reblogs will help a great deal as well to get as much info back)

Thanks in advance! 😃👍🏻

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Vitamin Deficiencies and Mental Health: Depression

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Feelings of sadness, changes in appetite, changes in sleep patterns, low energy, fatigue, general feelings of malaise and lack of motivation – many of these symptoms can be traced to biological components. When symptoms become prolonged – it can become extremely challenging to find relief.

Even without meeting criteria for an official diagnosis, depression symptoms can quickly impact daily functioning and overall well-being. Depression, like anxiety, is very common throughout the world and there remains a need for effective and efficient treatments. While science has made leaps and bounds in recent years on identifying biological components to depression, helping to reduce the stigma surrounding it in many ways, there remains a lot to learn. While antidepressants and psychotherapy benefit many, there remains a large sect of people who continue to suffer.

Appetite changes that frequently occur with depression may play a role in the nutritional aspect related to the following research. Again, and this cannot be stressed enough, correlation does not equal causation. Relationships between vitamin deficiencies and depression symptoms have been found but this does not mean that one causes the other; there may be an alternative explanation that has not been identified.

That said, the appetite changes that frequently occur with depression can include overeating or undereating. Some will find themselves snacking all day or binge eating, commonly referred to as “emotional eating”, typically sweet or salty foods (which boost dopamine resulting in small bursts of feeling relief). Others may find it overwhelming to even consider eating, let alone think about cooking an actual meal. In either case, nutritional recommendations are frequently disobeyed.

The lack of consistent research into using supplements during treatment is lacking. There seems to be little attention paid to how treating vitamin deficiencies may improve mood symptoms. More experimental research is definitely warranted.

For the purpose of this post, meta-analysis and literature review articles were focused on. Meta-analysis involves looking at research that is currently available and conducting statistical analysis of the results. Literature reviews peruse available information and present findings, typically to call for additional research and identify gaps or similar findings.

So, without further ado:

Vitamin D

There is a lot of anecdotal evidence about treating Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) with Vitamin D supplements – the following studies did not particularly look at mood changes related to seasonal changes and this will be delved into further on another post. SAD is theorized to be caused from changes in light patterns due to changing seasons, with depression symptoms occurring because of not enough sunlight being available. Vitamin D is absorbed through our skin via sun exposure and SAD tends to occur more frequently in areas with harsh winters.

The research evidence on Vitamin D and depression symptoms tends to be conflicting, including whether there is even a relationship between Vitamin D and depression.

For example, while Bicikova and colleagues (2015) found lower levels of the Vitamin D precursor, called calcidiol, Karanova and his colleagues (2015) found no similar correlation between Vitamin D deficiency and depression symptoms; however, they did find a correlation between depression and age.

Black and colleagues (2013) found a correlation between depression and Vitamin D levels in a sample of males; however, Alatram (2015) found no similar correlation in his sample of 43 males.

Studies concerning the use of Vitamin D supplements for the treatment of depression do not appear to be as promising as one may think. One study found that Vitamin D supplements produced only a moderate effect for those with significant depressive symptoms and minor effect for those with less severe symptoms (Shaffer et al 2015). A meta-analysis found no reduction in depression symptoms after Vitamin D supplementation (Gowda et al 2015).

Again, none of these studies discussed SAD specifically.

Vitamin B

B vitamins are another supplement for which anecdotal evidence is common, and two studies showed some benefit to their use.

A study on “Max Stress B”, a Vitamin B supplement, showed significant improvements in depression symptoms when compared to a placebo (Lewis et al 2013).

Stough and colleagues (2011) were interested in reducing workplace stress and improving mood ratings of employees. They found that after taking a B supplement for 3 months, participants reported less workplace stress and strain when compared to those assigned to the placebo group.

Folate

The most research found pertained to the use of Folate as a supplemental treatment to augment antidepressant medications. Adding folate to a traditional depression treatment was found to reduce Hamilton Depression Rating Scale (HDRS) scores in a review of three randomized trials (247 total participants). The review also found reduction in HDRS scores with folate use alone, and no significant difference between using folate or trazodone; however, the research is unclear whether participants were folate deficient or not and the number of participants for each study is fairly small (Taylor et al 2004).

Coppen and Bolander-Gouaille (2005) found through a literature review of current research a correlation between low folate and recurrent mood disorders, as well as a link between poor antidepressant treatment outcomes and low folate levels. They suggest, based on their review, that oral supplements of folic acid and vitamin B12 be used in addition to antidepressants for those who continue to experience depression symptoms.

In another literature review, short term use of folate and Vitamin B12 symptoms did not improve depression symptoms in adults with major depression who were already being treated with an antidepressant medication. However, prolonged consumption of the supplements may decrease relapse of symptoms for people at risk of recurrence (Almeida et al 2015). This may further support the use of these supplements as an addition to medication treatment, rather than a replacement.

Omega 3 Fatty Acids

Bloch and Hannestad (2012) conducted a meta-analysis of 13 randomized trials (731 participants total) and found there to be no significant benefit of Omega-3 fatty acid treatment compared to a placebo. They further suggested that studies demonstrating any benefits were biased, poorly designed experiments or comprised of participants with greater baseline symptoms.

In critique of this meta-analysis, Martins and colleagues (2012) conducted their own meta-analysis and suggested that EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid), a component of omega-3 fatty acid supplements, is really the key to treatment. They found that regimes with lower than 60% EPA content had no effect; however, supplements with 60% or greater content did demonstrate improvements with depression symptoms. They criticized Bloch and Hannestad for suggesting that all Omega-3 treatments are the same and called for further research to focus on dosages of supplements.

Another meta-analysis of 13 studies found that omega-3 may be a potential depression treatment but not for mania (Kraguljac et al 2009).

Zinc

Swardfager et al (2013) found in a meta-analysis of 17 studies that depression is associated with lower levels of zinc. However, this analysis did not include using zinc as a potential treatment protocol.


Further research, particularly strong experimental designs with large sample sizes, are needed to help identify the link and role of vitamin deficiencies and depression symptoms. The more biological components to mental health symptoms are studied, the more understanding is gained and the more effective treatment can be.

  • I am not a medical doctor or a nutritionist. This information is only being presented as a broad overview based off of previous academic studies. I encourage you to read the studies for yourself and discuss with your physician before taking ANY supplements. Many supplements can be toxic at the wrong dose or potentially worsen symptoms

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Works Cited:

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Practicing the Lost Art of Just Being

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Hurricane Irma is almost over; there is still some wind outside but the sun is shining and I saw some butterflies amongst the broken branches. Which made me wonder about what butterflies do during storms like these. How did they survive?! Apparently, I’m not the only one who wondered. Thank you, Google.

My area was lucky enough to not sustain much damage; I even have electricity right now! But I know that’s not the case for many and my sympathy goes out to all who endured worse and are dealing with extensive damage to their neighborhoods.

What is most astonishing to me right now, however, is that people are out and about already – making little piles of debris on their front yards or driving the streets out of curiosity. Again, the winds are still blowing. I’m watching your little debris piles rescatter on my lawn. What is your hurry?!

When did we forget how to just lay back and be? The branches will still be there tomorrow, the damage you’ll drive by today will be the same damage you see tomorrow morning.

We have all spent over a week preparing for this storm; adrenaline coursed through us yesterday evening and last night as we waited for what was to come. We watched the rain fall, worried about our roofs and fretted about that giant tree in the front yard crashing in on us. Personally, I am exhausted from the adrenaline crash alone.

Experiences like these make me grateful for loved ones and life in general. The last thing I want to do is go make a pile of sticks next to the driveway; and I’m not going to! I am going to stay in my PJs and do nothing. Perhaps I will play a board game, read a book, cuddle, and snack on Cheetos but I’ll be damned if I go out and start collecting sticks. I’m going to focus on gratitude and self-care.

How often is it that we are granted a day of doing nothing for a legitimate reason? Looking out my window, it appears a lot of people struggle with just being.

Tomorrow, I will be continuing my series on vitamins and mental health. But today, I’m going to just be.

I pray that all of my readers are safe and sound.

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